Everyone here for a post on books or writing move along... I'll have something for you on Wednesday. For everyone else, sit down, this could take a bit.
Today was Report Card Day. The girls are allowed to do gymnastics and horseback riding as long as no grade slips below a B. I don't think this is too much to ask. Both girls have been straight A students for several years.
And then Eldest came home with a D, and Miss Pink with a C.
Here's where the parental dilemma comes in. I know my girls love their activities. This is routine for us. They love gymnastics and their horses. For them to stay competitive in their sports, they need to practice regularly. For them to stay competitive at school, they need to get better grades.
And it's all a competition. College is expensive, but it's the only way to get into most jobs nowadays. Worse, the funding at the grade school level goes to the sports and the smart kids. If you want your kid to do more than sit in a classroom learning by rote, you need to be in the advanced classes.
The advanced class goes on monthly field trips... the regular classes don't have field trips after first grade.
The advanced class has updated science books... the regular classes are struggling to learn from a ten year old text.
The advanced class does hands-on projects... the regular class gets to watch a movie filmed 20 years ago.
The girls just advanced to the competitive class for gymnastics. They're training for spring competition and as it stands I can only afford to send them one day a week. The coach prefers the students to attend 2-3 days a week. Do I pull them out of that?
Where's the balance here?
I'm siding with grades. They're out of activities until the grades come up. And my children are in tears. I feel like a tyrant. I feel mean. This is the unfun part of parenting. I have to make a choice. I don't know how it will turn out. I don't even know if it's the right choice, because I'm not sure the activities are the problem!
Welcome to adulthood. There are no good answers.